A Father — whether biological, relational, adopted or surrogate — is needed in every tiny miss babe's life. These men hold huge responsibilities for this princess's future. She'll relate to every man through her experience with this one.
Dad is Her Rock!
Rutgers sociologist David Popenoe wrote, "I know of few other bodies of evidence (in social science) that lean so much in one direction as does the evidence that shows a father's relationship to his daughter is one of the key determinants in a woman's ability to enjoy a successful life and marriage."
Security is the basic need of every child. Fathers primarily provide that for a family. Dad is the "fence around the yard", "guardian of the fortress" and "children's protector." Daddy's girl knows there are strong arms to care for her, shelter her and lead her through this unfamiliar world.
Dad is Her Example!
"A child's most important relationship is the one with the parent of the opposite sex." — Kevin Lehman
Dad-Daughter relationships allows girls, from first breath, to learn how to share life with men. A daughter learns what to expect from the males in her world and how to respond. She learns to understand, relate to, and appreciate the differences. As she builds a relationship with her Dad, she is mastering skills to build future relationships. He is the most powerful example to her of a female-male relationship.
Dad is Her Barometer!
"He's my daddy: a waist to hug, cheek to kiss, two arms to enfold, person to encourage, strong presence to guide, nurturer who will love." — Kevin Lehman
Daughters gauge their self-worth, self-esteem and loveliness based on the attention and acceptance of their fathers. Embedded in every girl's psyche is a desire for her father's approval. Dad's time, encouragement and approval directly correlate to positive emotional and mental health. Girls don't care how Dad engages with them, just that he does. It is all about a relationship, not an activity. They need to hear dad's cheers from the sideline - get a hug no matter the outcome. If he appreciates her beauty, she believes she is beautiful. If he offers his love, she believes she is lovely. If he invests in her, she believes she has worth.
Fathers are never perfect, but no one will hold you in higher esteem than a daughter you have lavished with love and approval. She may one day promise her love to another, but you were her first knight in shining armor and that will never change.
Dad & Daughter Time Together
Whatever you can do with a son, you can do with a daughter. In most cases, she will be so pleased to have you to herself that she won't care what you are doing together. And if a particular activity seems not to thrill her, try something else. But take heart: this can be the start of a whole new approach to your role as a father — an approach that ultimately will be more rewarding, refreshing and gratifying than you ever imagined.
1. Do you spend uninterrupted and focused time alone with your daughter?
2. Do you take your daughter fishing? To sports events? Camping?
3. Have you taken your daughter to your workplace to show her what you do? 4. Do you discuss the nature of the business or professional worlds with your daughter?
5. Do you discuss finances and investments with your daughter?
6. Do you take your daughter with you on Saturdays to do "male-type" errands; auto-parts store, the local dump and the hardware store?
7. Do you teach her how to fix things?
8. Do you attend your daughter's extracurricular activities?