I am officially old enough to see trends making their second (and some third) time around again. I am usually just totally floored when some of these things show up after I’ve gotten rid of the last remnants of said trend in my closet. I gave away my last pair of leggings from the nineties about the time they started showing up in stores again a few years ago. I’m shocked that LuLaRoe has become such a hot thing! I loved colorful leggings and tunics the first time they were big thing! Now, I’m seeing high waisted jeans in stores... and button-fly jeans... for ladies... I’m not wearing those again.
My oldest daughter was just invited to a nineties party! The craziest outfit gets a prize! It’s just funny to me, because I think that is the decade that is making its return right now. I was in college for most of the nineties, and dating, getting married and having my first child, for the last half of the decade. It was pretty much a blur, and I’m positive my forties are way better than my twenties, but I may have dressed better back then.
Now that I have a twenty year old, I’m struck by how much the more things change, the more they stay the same. My prayers for him to just make a good choice are the same now as they were when he was in preschool. Praying for safety for my teenage driver mirrors my prayers for her when she was two. That little one hasn’t affected any change in my prayer life for her: “help her to listen, help her to control herself, help her to be kind...”
I called my friend, slightly panicked the other day, “Katie has lost her watch! We need you to check your house!” She just laughed because six years ago it was a panicked phone call for Katie’s glasses. These friends are military friends, and have been out of the area for those six years; we’re thrilled they’re back. As she and her family came over for the first time since they were back in town, she marvelled at the bird’s nest behind our front porch light because when they moved we had a nest then, too. “Nothing has changed!”
In a time and space where so much is changing, it’s comforting to rely on older traditions, like praying pretty much the same prayer after all these years. It’s nice to meet up and have cook outs with old friends. Seeing glimpses of my own teenage self in my now teenage kids is just pretty surreal, though. It’s both precious and humbling to see my kids growing into adults. Sometimes, I just shrug and say, “Sorry, you get that from me.” Sometimes, though, I get to say, “OH! They get that from me!”
Good books never go out of style. I’m reading Harry Potter with my youngest and it’s so cool to see her get just as excited as her older siblings did. I love reading classics with the kids, too. Katie and I are tackling The Chronicles of Narnia this year for homeschool. I can’t wait. I think she will find them magical. Even toys that are vintage are cool. I noticed Strawberry Shortcake in the toy aisle at Target, and right next to the hip modern version was the model that I played with a million years ago. I literally squealed with delight while my kids rolled their eyes and pretended they didn’t know who I was. See? Didn’t we all do that with our parents? Nothing really changes too much.
So, as we usher in our new school year time frame (and what about that Lisa Frank stuff? I remember that when I was in elementary school!), remember that even though it seems like everything has changed, you can relax a bit and look at things through the perspective of time. Given enough time, things come back around again. Embrace change, even though it’s hard, and embrace the timelessness of life. Love, laughter, faith, tears, chaos and calm happen over and over and over again.
Keep calm, keep your leggings (and your books), and family on!!!