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Kristen is a home­maker, home­schooler, and a home­keeper. Her experience includes nineteen years of practice, raising three kids, a husband, and a dog. Writing about her life helps her stay sane. She believes that sharing stories helps others by providing opportunities to share advice (and helpful hints) about homeschooling, and raising kids on the autism spectrum, while supporting marriages and families that are striving to thrive.

We're All a Little Mad Here

I am down and out with a neck injury again. One of the challenges of living with fibromyalgia is pain. I understand that the nerves in my body are simply “over-reacting” to a stimulus, but the feeling is still real. The pain is still pain. It seems, too, that at least four times a year my neck just decides to throw in the towel and stop being supportive, as if it is just done with my head and shoulders, and just done with the whole support of my cranium and conduit in which to conduct normal nerve impulses. My left arm feels like it is on fire, while my left hand feels like pins and needles. My left shoulder feels like a knife is in it, and my left hip feels wet. It’s really pretty weird.


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So, I’m reading this book about a Navy SEAL who just powers through pain, and any acceptable limit of abuse a body can take. Now, I may aspire to be more fit than I am, and I channel my inner Black Widow on occasion, but I don’t run anymore (unless I see a snake or a wasp) because it hurts and I am not much of a worker-outer. I prefer to walk, stretch, and do a few minutes of yoga. This guy, this machine-man, is named Dave Goggins, and in our house, now, instead of saying I’ll just power through something, I say I’m Gogginsing that! The kids and the husband are on board with the phrase, too.




While I never hope to be a Navy SEAL, I, and probably any other parent in the world, require that power-through mentality, in order to raise a family. Now, I’m not saying that pain is all in the mind, and that being empathetic to your children who are hurting makes you a wuss, but, I bet there are occasions when saying “suck it up” is entirely appropriate. I know I’ve overdone the sympathy card with not only my kids, but friends, friends’ kids, parents, spouse, etc. However, after years of therapy I’ve arrived at a place of fragile balance between genuine sympathy, and “OK, it’s time to Goggins through that!” You’re not always going to win the contest, you’re going to fall off your bike, you’re going to get a bad grade, you are going to make a poor choice, and you are going to experience pain. When life knocks you down, get back up again!

While I am upping my health goals and exercise goals in order to stay healthy enough to raise the family, I need to remember balance, and when enough is enough. Actually, this neck-nerve-spasm thing occurred not from me over-doing it, but from me taking a shower. Yep, shampooing and rinsing off is, apparently, a hazardous activity... for me, at least. I had walked a bit prior to the shower, and walking is my sport of choice, but I didn’t think I was being a Navy SEAL status walker. I wasn’t this time, anyway. But, balance.




Most of the people I know that are crazy busy raising their families, working, trying to keep everyone clothed and fed and nurtured, are struggling with fitness goals. We need to encourage each other to just do something. I wrote a very similar post last year. Doing something is better than doing nothing. If a ten minute walk around the block is all that is going to happen today, then that is good. Ten minutes beats no minutes every time. While I do know some uber-fit people, they tend to be of the variety that like mornings, and get up early. I can’t (ahem... won’t) do that, as mornings make me very, extremely grouchy when they are accompanied with not enough sleep, and no coffee waiting for me... however, mid morning walks, with a few weights thrown in after may be the ticket to increase the fitness routine up a bit, hopefully preventing any more neck injuries. I’ll keep you posted!

Stay Calm, get through it, and parent on!!

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