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Tori’s Stories: A Doula-mentary

 I have the greatest job in the world.  Seriously.  I know other people say they have the greatest job in the world, but nope.  Not even close.  I win.  Hands down.  I get to watch people become and grow as parents!!  It’s like being an awesome auntie; I jump in when help is needed, offer advice when asked, but mostly I get to guide parents to their own strength and confidence by telling them how awesome they already are!

I am a doula.

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Pronounced DOO-lah.  It rhymes with moola.  Doula.  “What the heck is a doula?” you may be thinking.   “And why is her job so great?  And why do I care anyway?”  Well, let me tell you...

As a Professional Labor Doula, I bring a skilled and experienced set of hands to work with laboring parents, to offer physical, emotional and informational support in late pregnancy, during labor and birth, and immediately afterward.  After you’ve hired an obstetrician or midwife to take care of the medical tasks and ensure you and your baby stay healthy, you hire a doula to help with labor “from the waist up” (for both you and your partner).

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They used to call us birth coaches, but birth and parenthood isn’t a game, no one is keeping score, and I don’t call the shots.  I’m a DOULA.  My job is to rub your back, cheer you on, and help your partner shine so you can focus on the life you’re bringing into the world.  I’m the birth expert who provides continuous and unconditional support, so you can feel good about the experience.

And the fun doesn’t stop there!  Doulas are not just for labor anymore!  As a Professional Postpartum Doula, I will support you and your family at home as you transition to life with a new baby.  Life with me as your postpartum doula is like having a fairy-godmother around to help with all the little household tasks.  It’s almost as if magically your laundry gets folded, the kitchen is wiped down, your baby is changed and swaddled and ready to feed as soon as you get up from that nap you were taking (because there was a skilled someone at your home, to take care of your little one so you could focus on resting).

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Technically, you don’t even have to have birthed the baby—postpartum doulas are great for adoptive parents, parents who used a surrogate or even grandparents who are taking on the role of parenting again!

I get to mother the mothers!  I get to help people when they are vulnerable and tired and just need an extra pair of hands.  It really is THE GREATEST JOB IN THE WORLD.

Why do you care?  Oh right, because this blog is about you, and not about me.  Well, in order to be a great doula, I’ve had to do TONS of reading, classes, trainings and self-education on all things birth and parenting. We’ll be talking about all kinds of stuff here in my blog: Tori’s Stories, a Doula-mentary.  We’re gonna get up close and personal with pregnancy, birth and the postpartum period, because I want to open the doors to conversations about the transition into parenthood.  It is my firm belief that in sharing our stories, suggestions and help, we can all be stronger people and stronger parents.

In my next post, I’ll answer the question, “Will intimacy after birth ever be the same?”  (Spoiler alert: The answer is yes.  And no.  But mostly yes.  Unless you want it to change…)

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About Victoria

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Victoria is mom to three precocious preschool-aged sons, proud Army wife, and owner of Doulas of Fredericksburg.  She enjoys spending time in her not-so-fruitful vegetable garden, and believes with every fiber of her being that in order to raise capable and confident kiddos, we should leave no stone unturned (and no support left untouched) to find these qualities in ourselves!

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