- Category: Pink Owl
- Published: Thursday, October 22, 2015
- Written by Kristen Schroeder
Soooo.... How is that schedule thing working out for you?
Ummm, no. It's not. After all of my planning, my glorious attempt at being organized this fall, I have YET to have a normal week. I've either had dental appointments, doctor appointments, plan-for-the-future appointments, or sickness appointments. Every. Week. Since the start of school. True story.
My "bam-you-have-a-routine," has become' "surprise! What-chaos-can-we-throw-your-way-today?"
Indeed. This is what my mentor moms call a "season of life". It sounds much nicer than "everything is going wrong," or "not according to plan," or "this just stinks."
Can I get a witness? Anyone else?
A season of life refers to the crazy things that happen to you, and you just have to get through it. Sometimes, the season is because you're dealing with something heart-breaking. I know moms dealing with loss, or sickness. Some families are even trying to care for aging parents, and making sacrifices, and some super hard choices. Sometimes, the season is for a really happy event like the birth of a new baby (yes, most usually anticipated, but still chaotic). Moving to a dream house, getting the job you've always wanted, adoption... all happy events, all those things can cause stress, though. Sometimes, it's just a busy time of life.
In the homeschool community, the veterans assure me that it's ok during these seasons, that the kiddos are still learning, they are still going to pass the tests that are due to the state every summer, they are still growing academically, etc. I tend to be a worrier- I can leap to anxiety in a single bound, and jump way ahead to all sorts of conclusions. I have not had such a season (well, until now) when we (the kids and I) have been so off schedule (mind you, it's my schedule). This year, starting during the summer months, has just been wonky. We've had a lot of unanticipated events, and then just a lot of appointments. I don't doubt that the kids are learning, but we aren't following the plan I actually planned for us to follow. It's disconcerting to my OCD-ness. On top of that, we had well-checkups at the pediatrician yesterday, and when asked about school, my sweet, unfiltered, twelve-year-old answered, "it's great! We aren't even schooling, we are un-schooling!"
"Ahem.... She means to say that we aren't very structured this year... Ummmm, and, they are reading and doing math," I stammer out while giving the baby the eyes... You know the look. The one that says, please keep that in your thought bubble. While I'm doing that, the fourteen year old chimes in, "except I'm not good at math. I'm, like, two years behind." The look gets transferred to her while I firmly remind her that she's fourteen doing junior level work in everything else. Why, why, why do I feel the need to validate? -- Maybe because it’s the pediatrician, maybe it’s that I feel like I have to always perform well, maybe it is just that I’m the teacher, and I don’t care for math…
Anyway, I know not everybody in the homeschool community is as structured as I’d like to be, just as I know, that there are several families who make homeschool look like a typical school would look like. I do know that life is not perfectly scripted, and sometimes school happens from the bed, from the couch, from netflix, or from the park. For those of you that are thinking about homeschooling, I want to encourage you to do it!! For those of you that need a little encouragement and are in a season of life (whichever season that may be), just know that statistically, your little ones will do fine on those tests, even if you aren’t hitting the books every single day.
And for those of you that are just wondering what happened to your perfectly planned schedule, feel free to join me in that journey and we will just remind ourselves that it is just a season. Put your roots down, dig in, and enjoy.