A long time ago, in a galaxy far far away, I liked to scrapbook. Actually, I liked collecting things that would eventually go into a scrapbook, but I really just slapped a few pictures in a book and called it a day. After what felt like the one-millionth move with Steve, I realized I had to stop buying crafty totes just to move all those stickers, borders, and specialty cutters. I just had to give up that hobby I really never started.
Luckily, I had the perfect person to pass my scrapbook treasure collection off to - my sister. About 1-2 times a year, she goes off on a scrapbooking weekend and loves spending time with friends putting together scrapbooks. Seeing her joy helped me to recognize that this activity didn't bring me joy. So, I joined the world of "make an photobook when I get a Shutterfly coupon" and my photos and I have been happy ever since.
Whenever I get in that weird place of thinking I should be able to do everything, you know, be the crafty mom, the thrifty mom, the one that cooks great healthy meals and has everything organized just so, I remind myself of my scrapbooking "a-ha" moment. No, it's not a perfect system - I fall down that rabbit hole of trying to accomplish every Pinterest board possible. But, when you take a moment to recognize the totality of what you have accomplished, it's a lot easier to let go of the things you haven't.
Try making an anti-to-do list. It sounds crazy, I know. But, ask yourself what are those things you say you're going to do, but deep down you know you won't (and keep beating yourself up about). Deciding what not to do can lead to a reduction of stress, less clutter, and an increased sense of self-efficacy.
Life can get easier once we release ourselves from the burdens of coulda, woulda, shoulda.