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I just love it when...

I just love it when…

There is a big joke between me and my children and it cracks me up every time I think about it.  Whenever we are all together as a family, it fills me with joy and I inevitably end up saying, “I just love it when we’re all here together!”   The kids predict it and will say it before I do sometimes!  Eyes roll, giggles ensue and we are all laughing afterwards.

Spending time with them is as precious to me now as it was when they were little.  Now that I have 2 in college and a third in 8th grade, the time we have together is much different.  It’s still meaningful, but getting everyone in the same room for any measurable amount of time can be a challenge.  Between school, work, and other commitments, it takes some planning.

When the boys are home from college for their breaks, I am in heaven!  Just being able to see their faces each day is a gift to me.  Watching them interact with their sister is wonderful.  The laughter, joking around and sharing of stories is great to see. I often wish I could just freeze time for a short while.  I want to take it all in and often find myself recalling what makes each of them so special to me.




My oldest son has a sense of humor that has me laughing hysterically all the time.  When I need to be cheered up, he delivers!  I can rely on him texting me back right away which I appreciate so much, especially when he is away from home.  I can always count on him to give me a huge smile and a hug, followed by the sweet words, “I love you, ma!” He is a hard worker and always expresses his gratitude for the little things I do for him.

My middle son is so helpful and has a knack for cooking up something great in the kitchen when I’m at a loss for ideas.  He has a compassionate heart, and I love to hear him singing around the house!  His knowledge and insight is apparent as we discuss different topics together.  He is kind hearted and understanding, and his hugs give me a boost when I’m in need.

Creative and funny, my daughter gives great bear hugs and knows how to bring a smile to my face!  She puts up with my unending questions with grace and is able to encourage me when I’m feeling blue.  She has a fabulous laugh and knows how to liven up the room with her smile and personality.  Her caring nature is evident in the way she helps others.

I am fortunate to have a husband that allows me to be me.  He is supportive and has a great knack for encouraging me to step out of my comfort zone.  I know he probably tires of my inquisitiveness, but he allows me to ask away and talks with me about whatever is on my mind.  He is inventive, productive, handy, and has great musical talents.  I am thankful for him and the love he gives to me and our family.




How can I be so blessed?  My heart is filled to the brim… I thank God for giving me a devoted husband and three incredible kids that each bring a dimension of love and happiness to me.  The unique way they are able to use their gifts to bring delight to my life is immeasurable.  The positive effect it has on me is amazing! 

How does your family impact your life?  I encourage you to spend some time reflecting on your blessings today!

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Tis the season...

Tis the Season…


Each year before the holiday season arrives, I tell myself to just relax and enjoy it. I remind myself not to get stressed or frustrated. 2014 was no different; I gave myself the same pep talk and dove into the holidays, hoping for the best.

In all honesty, most years, I fail miserably at that at the “relax and enjoy” part! I know it is because I feel like I don’t do all that I should during this busy time of year. I get caught up in the hustle and bustle of the events around me, and only seem to see what is missing.

I cannot help but wonder why there is such a push to commercialize Christmas. I am probably one of the few women who does not enjoy shopping!  Most people love to go out and look around, thinking of creative gifts that will be well received and loved by the recipient.  I am not that way.  I am so indecisive!  I second guess myself to the point of just deciding to walk out of the store with nothing instead of picking something that I'm afraid the person will not like.  This year, however, I chose items for my family that I felt would be meaningful to them.  Happily I can say they seemed pleased with their gifts!


The events of one day or a certain gift should not have to represent how much I love and care about my family and friends.  I live my life trying my best to show how much I appreciate and value them every day through offering my help, prayers, encouraging words, and meaningful conversation.  I want that to be enough. 

Thankfully, another holiday is behind me.  Now that Christmas is over, I am delighted to say that I was able to soak up the time with my family and find joy in the simple things this year!  I was focused on my blessings, such as my relationships with God, family and friends, rather than being unsettled and placing unnecessary pressure on myself. 

In 2014 I had so many reasons to celebrate, and finally did so, knowing that I placed the correct emphasis on what the holidays should really be about – quality time with those we hold closest in our hearts.  

With the New Year approaching, it is a great time to reflect on your life in preparation for what is to come.  I hope that 2015 is a year full of blessings, new opportunities, and a special time for you to think about all that holds the most meaning for you.  Happy New Year and I hope you enjoy, and learn from, each experience you encounter! 



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Parenting and what not

I love to write. Okay, really I just love to talk! Let's keep it real. ☺ I'm sure it can be annoying, but I tend to just say what I'm thinking and feeling to whomever is near me. All.The.Time. It is simply to let them know about something I find fascinating or intriguing, and I just want to know how they feel too. And sometimes is it because I lack self- control!

My life is such a blessing, and I absolutely love being a mom. Most of my conversations with others revolve around family, and it is wonderful to share stories about parenting in hopes of finding someone out there who has struggled a bit, and then figured out how to make it work.

Do you ever find yourself feeling like you are the only one in the world that is stuck with trying to find the answer to a parenting issue? Are you ever asking yourself some of these questions: Should I step in, or wait it out? Have I given them enough chances to try, fail, try again, and learn the important lessons? Isn't there a tutorial that I can watch for instructions on how to do it the right way?

Does anyone else lie awake at night while their brain downloads the events of the ENTIRE day in slow motion?

Me: let me sleep

Brain: lol, no let's stay awake and remember every stupid decision you made in your life.

Me: okay


Here is where that heartfelt encouragement comes are doing just fine! No really, even if you made cereal for dinner (again!) it is okay! There are no exact rules when it comes to raising kids. I believe that there are some simple, yet profound, things to remember that will go a long way in helping you raise up joyful, loving children who feel like they matter and belong in this world.

1. Love them completely and unconditionally, from the heart.

2. Allow mistakes to be made, and then learn from them.

3. Laugh with them. I mean belly laugh. Often!

4. Give responsibilities to your children. They can become more challenging as they get older. It's important!

5. Forgive them. Over, and over, and over again. Mean it.

6. Spend time with them. Even when they're older. Relish every single moment. Trust me when I say that TIME FLIES.

7. Admit it when you make a mistake. It shows them that you're human and teaches them humility and grace.

8. Embrace who they are, and encourage them to use the gifts they've been given. Support them, but don't make them be something they're not.

9. Really listen to them when they talk with you. Pay attention!

10. Pray for them. Pray with them.

I look forward to hearing about some of what makes parenting joyful for you. What is your favorite thing about it? How about the hardest thing? Please feel free to share something that is sure to help me, or another person reading this, so we can all live purposefully and parent lovingly to brighten up this world we live in!


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About Tammy


I am a happily married mommy of three, who is living my life in hopes of making a positive difference in the world. I will share my ups and downs with you all to encourage and support you along your journey.  Live with purpose, and choose joy!

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