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Living Purposefully

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There are times when it is very difficult for me to find words to adequately express my feelings.  When things happen that shock and upset me, I have a hard time knowing what to say, because it all seems so trivial in light of the horrific incidents that took place.  I feel such sadness and compassion for those who are hurt by such events, yet struggle to know exactly what would be helpful to them. I sometimes shy away from posting a response at all because I don’t want my opinions to take away from the love of Christ within me.  It’s hard for me, especially when I’m passionate about trying to live my own life by loving others and treating them with kindness, and in the way I want to be treated.

As I look at my family and friends, I am reminded of how each of us is an important part of the world we live in.  I am blessed because everyone brings their unique personalities to the table, and as we live, we learn and grow together.  We’re different, and rightfully so!  If we all thought the same things and did everything the same way, this would be one very boring life!

I find it meaningful to live for an audience of One. I share my Christian beliefs with anyone I can because my life has been positively impacted by becoming a believer.  I do not share it to shame anyone, or to cause others to feel bad about themselves or their choices on how they live.  I just know what works for me and want to extend the same opportunity to others so they too can experience such a deep love, should they choose to do so.

With that said, none of us has the right to judge another for their lifestyle choices, or their belief structure.  Nor should anyone be hated, discriminated against or injured due to the color of their skin, yet this continues to happen right before my eyes.  How are we supposed to fix such a broken system?  Why are we constantly hearing such heart wrenching stories of turmoil and separation within our country?

Lately, so many events have transpired making it clear to me that our nation is in need of a revival. We need to stand up and let it be known that hate will not be victorious.  During struggles and desperation, we need to lean on each other to try to make sense of the tragedies.  I’m having difficult conversations with my family and friends to gain new perspectives on what they think and feel.  I’m also trying to embrace ideals that differ from mine, even when they do not line up with my morals, because I know that only by listening and trying to relate to where others are coming from can I begin to see the meaning behind their feelings.  It doesn’t mean I will compromise my beliefs and way of living, but it does mean I am willing to give them an opportunity to help me recognize where they are coming from.

I want to know that my family and I are safe, and that we can go about our lives without fear of being hurt or discriminated against. As a mom to three biracial children, I think about how others perceive them.  I wonder if my sons will be more of a target to law enforcement due to the fact that they are not Caucasian. They deserve the same rights as anyone else on this planet, regardless of how they look. I want each and every person in the world to feel like they matter and have purpose, and have the right to live life without having to look over their shoulders all the time. I don’t think that’s too much to ask. 

Often, we are given information that is hard to accept and believe.  Should we address it? Forget it? Take a stand?  I personally am going to do all I can to make sure that I am living my life as I know I should by treating others as I would like to be treated.  I want to look at everyone and see human beings, and not let my view of them be swayed by media hype or lies.  I choose joy and to be a peacemaker, knowing that it will make a positive difference.  Regardless of where we stand politically, spiritually, or personally, several things remain unanimous:

                *Hurt people, hurt people.  It’s hard to believe it when you see others acting erratically, but it’s true.  When you are suffering, sometimes you lash out at others not knowing how much you are hurting them.

               *Kindness matters.  We simply need to treat others with love, respect and kindness.  ALL others; regardless of how they look, or act.  Even when people are ugly towards you, you should respond calmly and with class.

                *Each life is important.  We may not agree with differing lifestyles and choices, but no one is beyond the capacity to show respect and consideration for others.

               *Stand up for what is right.  No matter what others say, or how you seem to be influenced against it, take a stand for what you know to be the right thing.  Someone has to, and why not have it be you?  Right is right, even when no one is doing it.  Wrong is wrong, even if everyone is doing it.

                *Love wins, every time.  No matter how much hate, darkness, pessimism and negativity is floating around in the world right now, love will conquer all. 

Today is a great time to begin to look inside yourself to see if you are going to be a part of the problem, or do you choose to be part of the solution?  Are you with me?  Let’s make a positive difference one day at a time!  Has anything happened recently to bring a new level of consciousness to you?  How are you handling it?


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About Tammy


I am a happily married mommy of three, who is living my life in hopes of making a positive difference in the world. I will share my ups and downs with you all to encourage and support you along your journey.  Live with purpose, and choose joy!

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