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Doctor Yum

I read a great quote the other day while doing my morning personal reflection and study, “Many of you are endlessly compassionate and patient with the weaknesses of others. Please remember to be equally as compassionate and patient with yourself.”


My lunch later that day consisted of one of my secret stops to Sheetz and I was once again focusing on my feelings of failure because I gave in to temptation. As I was eating, working, and wallowing I was immediately reminded of the quote I had read earlier that morning. How often did I forgive others? How often did I overlook the shortcomings of so many around me and try to truly see their strengths and greatest attributes? Why then was I so determined to make myself miserable? Why couldn’t I be compassionate with myself?

I decided right then and there that the negativity would stop! I would make a conscious effort to not only shift my focus, but to document it. I have never been a big fan of the monthly gratitude thing that I see so many turn to this time of year, but I decided that while publicly declaring it might not be my thing, the practice of gratitude was worth trying. I have a planner/journal that I keep and I figured that was the best place for me to really write out my grateful heart. To not only feel the feelings, but to put pen to paper so I could reflect on it again and again.

In our class that past week, we had learned about roasting beautiful fall vegetables, most of which I had never ventured to try. Lo and behold...

i love squash

I love squash!

steph squash

Who would have known? Of course, those buggers are quite the thing to cut into, but they are oh so good!! And this time of year, they are super cheap which helps with my attempts at a budget. It may seem silly or oh so minor to some, but this is huge for me. I knew that this was what I needed to focus my attention on. Those small accomplishments that happen every day. They have always been there, but I was looking in the wrong direction.

Going through this has really opened my eyes to the way that I parent. What am I teaching my children about compassion? About food? About relationships with those around them? I want them to love food, to be bold, to try new things but am I able to do it with compassion? How can I instill in them the need to be healthy while still respecting their likes and dislikes?

I feel that too often today when our children express displeasure with something, many of us immediately remove the source of the discomfort. I have found that I do this more times than I care to even admit. With further thought, I know now that I at times am doing more harm than good. We need to learn to face difficult things, to overcome, to recognize them as a source of growth. This may be a larger-than-life concept to apply to trying new foods, but think about it. If I can get myself to try squash, to conquer that fear of the unknown aren’t the possibilities endless? As they say, it all starts with that small step...

Have compassion for your children and yourself and those around you while still encouraging them to be their best selves. You are never too old to try new things, especially food. Next thing you know I will be jumping out of an airplane (yeah, right-bum hip remember?) For now, I will have to settle for trying a new haircut...

steph haircut

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About Doctor Yum


Nimali Fernando, MD is a local pediatrician and mom who is passionate about teaching families about feeding kids nutritious foods. Follow her blog to find out about local healthy food finds for kids, recipes, and how to make feeding kids an enriching family experience. You can also check out her website, for more great ideas on feeding children healthy foods.


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