- Category: Coffee with a Slice of Life
- Published: Tuesday, November 06, 2018
- Written by Dianna Flett
I had a terrible accident eight years ago. Amongst other injuries I sustained, I literally broke my neck. It was a difficult time for our family and certainly hard on our children. Sammy took my injury the hardest. When the poor little guy saw me in the emergency room with my face burned, my neck in a brace, stitches over my eye and hand in a cast, he threw up three times before his dad could get him out of the room. As I was recovering we were eventually able to get back to our “routines”. One night about three months after I fell, I was tucking Sam then eight-years-old into bed.
After we said our prayers, Sammy asked, “Mommy, does it hurt yet?”
“Excuse me, Sam?” I said.
“Does your body hurt yet?” Sam asked.
“Yes Sammy” I said, “it has been hurting since I fell.”
Sammy looked surprised and a bit upset.
“But you told me in the hospital that grown-ups don’t feel pain like kids do and that it wouldn’t hurt you.”
I thought back for a moment.
“Sam, I don’t remember saying that but sometimes parents say things because we don’t want our children to hurt or be upset. Momma knew how hard the idea of me hurting would be for you so after my accident I said I wasn't in pain.”
I watched his little face as he processed my words. He looked at the ceiling for a moment and then looked back at me and said, “Thanks mom.”
“You’re welcome Sam.”
As I was leaving his room I said; “Good night sweetheart.”
"Good night mom."
I saw Sammy roll over and heard him as he whispered into his blanket, “You’re the best mom in the whole world.”
I think of that moment often because I make so many mistakes as a mom. It’s comforting to me that I instinctively calmed my son’s fears when he needed me to even in one of my darkest moments.
I want all moms realize that sometimes, no matter what challenges we’re facing, sometimes we get it right.