It is common for new dads to feel lost during the first few weeks or months following the birth of their child. The truth is this is a brand new experience and many first-time dads usually have no idea how to be prepared.
Even with the preparation you think you have prior to the birth, switching to the role of a dad can still be overwhelming.
Our today’s article is here to help make the jump for a partner or a husband into a dad with all the required knowledge in no time.
Always keep in mind that there is no judgment in having parental questions. No one has the right parenting answers at the beginning of their parenting journey.
Being proactive and accessible is usually the key to getting into the correct mindset to being a full-fledged dad.
1. Shifting your mindset
If you do not accept that your life is different now, you will have a hard time finding the right footing for your new role.
While it is valuable to remember all the time you had and how easy it was prior to the baby’s arrival, it is all irrelevant now. If you are looking for a quick and seamless transition into your new role, you will need to think about the present moment and the future. Also, do not forget to remind yourself that you are capable of anything that life throws your way, including fatherhood.
2. Roll up your sleeves (sooner than later)
Without realizing it, many dads try to avoid the everyday mundane duties. Inevitably, it becomes more harmful. The more you run away from your daily responsibilities as a new dad, the more you hurt your partner and strain your relationship. You will also miss out on a lifetime of opportunity of bonding with your newborn.
For instance, changing the baby’s diapers. You can choose this as your main task, which is continuous, and you can perform it during the day or night.
Again, think of it as an opportunity for you to bond with the baby. You can be as imaginative as you want when performing the task, from singing to the baby to playing games like funny faces and dancing. All of this will keep the baby happy, engaged, and interested in you and what you are doing while you go about your business.
Also, if you are performing other tasks, you can use smart baby items like the baby carrier to hold the baby as you go about your house chores.
3. Being empathetic rules!
Believe it or not, many new daddies find it hard to deal with the continuous rules of no intimacy. While intimacy pre-pregnancy is normal and quite recommended, this changes fast post-pregnancy.
Childbirth will change the dynamics of your relationship. You need to remember that the baby’s needs should always come first.
Besides, pregnancy and childbirth change your partner’s body and they will need enough time to heal and try to get back to how things were before.
4. Never stop trying
Fatherhood comes with a set of new commitments and responsibilities. This is the best chance you have to harness the reins of being a dad and take the time to learn more about yourself and your baby.
A younger baby will require more time with mom, especially during the breastfeeding stage. You might not have enough to offer the baby and the mummy directly, but there are a few chores you can help with.
- Sterilizing baby’s bottles
- Bathing tasks
- Burping tasks
- Preparing the baby’s clothes
- Preparing the baby’s bags
- Playtime tasks
- Book reading
Never stop looking for smart ways you can offer help, even when it seems like there is no help to render. With time, you will gain more skills on the day-to-day tasks, which will lift a significant burden from your significant other.
5. Never shy from asking for help
It might seem embracing or unusual, but one of the best ways to make it as a new dad is to ask for help. The problem is some new dads want to believe and show that they know it all.
Successful parenting requires one to ask for help regularly.
There is a possibility that someone has gone through whatever you are experiencing now and can offer you more insights and tips to manage the situation.
Consult the seniors in your circles, from friends to family members and even colleagues and religious leaders where possible.
6. Put your social life on hold
As a new dad, spend more time at home with your partner and newborn. Finding your foothold as a new parent is challenging and overwhelming for everyone, you must make yourself indispensable for your new family.
For now, press pause on your social life, including hanging out with friends and attending social events all the time. You will only miss out on a few of these moments, and loving friends will surely understand why.
7. Remember the 1-on-1 time!
It is common for new parents to experience big changes physically and mentally after the birth of the baby. As much as this is common, you need to remember that finding a new routine that suits you both doesn’t mean forgetting your former selves.
Ensure you find time to do and appreciate all the little things you did for your partner. Simple stuff like cooking for them, cleaning, running a bath, or massages will not go unnoticed.
Mo Mulla is a work-from-home dad who enjoys reading and listening to music. He loves being a dad and husband to a growing family. He loves writing about his passions and hopes to change the world, 1 blog post at a time! You can find his Facebook page here: https://www.facebook.com/ParentalQuestions