Ahhhh… December… lovely time of year. People seem to be a little more hopeful, a little more helpful, and a little more happy, except, when they aren’t. The holiday season brings out the best and worst in everyone, sometimes. I’ve seen all the extremes, actually, and I’ve been guilty of being a little bipolar myself, this year. Despite my attempts to avoid any and all negativity, the media mocks me by reporting only the divisive, horrible, two-faced news stories. I’ve decided not to dwell on the negativity, but even for an optimist like myself, it’s hard to be positive all the time. So, I”ve come up with a few ideas to stay annoyingly upbeat- especially during the holiday season. Yes, I said annoying, and yes, definitely positive. I will channel Buddy the Elf, of the movie Elf, for his innocent and joyful view of the holiday season and humanity, and all that entails.
First of all, I put up the decorations early this year (it may or may not have been right after Halloween). I think that it is hard to be hateful when your house is lit up like a Christmas tree. I have lights, and sparkle lights, and tree lights, and glitter everywhere. I love decorating for Christmas, and it lifts my mood to see my tree and the stockings, and all. the. things. of the holidays. So, my suggestion is to put up some decor to inspire and cheer you!
Next, do something good for somebody (anybody) every day. We make blessing bags to hand out to people that we pass on the corner of shopping centers. We make cookies for the neighbors that seem lonely, and even the ones who don't seem lonely. We give at our church. We serve at our church, too. A smile, a helping hand with groceries, letting someone go ahead of you in line at the grocery store, writing a note to soldiers overseas (or at one of the recovery hospitals) -- all these things are ways to serve someone other than yourself. Doing for others helps you live longer and it improves your mood. I’m pretty sure science can back up these statements! I can speak from experience that it’s true, though.
You should also make something. Be creative. Creativity is an expression that only you can make out of your own very unique soul. Write a song, make up a dance, write a story, color a picture, make a cake, decorate something… Creativity is truly a lifeline, and truly something, that if lacking, can cause depression and anxiety - and who needs more of those in their lives? The answer is nobody I know. So, create something! Create anything. You were designed to be creative, and unleashing that inner spirit can cause lots of happiness.
Of course, sing some songs and be silly with your kids. Yes, holidays are stressful- both good stress and not-so-good stress. Kids feel it, too. So, play some silly songs and belt them out with your kids. My brother, I remember, was dismayed to learn that Tommy knew all the NSYNC songs at age two, and could even sing them somewhat well. This was before he had real language, mind you, but sometimes, belting out some NSYNC makes for a fun car ride, and singing can liven up those pre-afternoon doldrums. James Taylor is great when someone is sick, and Elmopalooza is fantastic for road trips. Don't worry about ruining your kids' taste in music, I can attest that Tommy is into classic rock, and the girls have a working knowledge of eighties hair bands, love Bon Jovi, and can tolerate most bubblegum-pop-rock music. It’s all good.
Lastly, and this is serious, don’t be afraid to love each other, love neighbors, love strangers, love people who don’t look like you, and love the opposition. There are just too many stories in the news of suicide and depression. As a former nurse, I can tell you that for some people, the holidays are the loneliest time of the year. I am sure I’ve written this before, but in this time and space it is important enough to repeat: Everybody is going through something. It doesn’t cost anything to be kind, and costs even less to just be polite. So, get out there and enjoy the holiday season as best you can with the gifts you have that are the present.
Keep calm, enjoy the holidays, and parent on!