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Kristen is a home­maker, home­schooler, and a home­keeper. Her experience includes nineteen years of practice, raising three kids, a husband, and a dog. Writing about her life helps her stay sane. She believes that sharing stories helps others by providing opportunities to share advice (and helpful hints) about homeschooling, and raising kids on the autism spectrum, while supporting marriages and families that are striving to thrive.

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We're All a Little Mad Here

 

I have been married for twenty one years. Mark and I have been together for twenty four years. The average Hollywood marriage only lasts a few years (I said average, mind you), and in the United States the divorce rate (overall) is a little less than half. I read a disturbing article recently about how getting married is not even “worth anything.” I'm at the stage in life where I'm going to second-marriage weddings, or shedding tears with friends that are suffering through divorce. We hear so much about divorce and break-ups. Well, how about some good news about marriage?

I am passionate about marriage. Let me be clear that there is no judgment toward anyone that is not married, will never be married, or is divorced. I am, however, moved to write about why marriage is so important. I want to encourage parents to stay together. I urge couples to nurture their marriages just like they would nurture their children, even more so. Marriage can be so great, not only for the parents, but for the family, too!

 

 

Families are truly the cornerstone of our great country. Parents are responsible for encouraging the next generation to greatness, and success. Children that grow up in married homes statistically score better on standardized tests, are healthier, and they live longer. These are statistics from a social science study (The Case For Marriage- by Linda Waite)! I know plenty of hard-working, conscience-minded, single people raising children single handedly, so, again, there is no condemnation for those readers that land in that category.  My hats are off to you all, too! This just happens to be a benefit of marriage that directly impacts the children in a married-parents family home.

Also, parents who stay in a marriage relationship tend to have the same benefits. Adults that are married tend to be healthier, wealthier, and happier than their unmarried peers. I think the comraderie that develops over time between a couple benefits marriage and family raising, alike. We (my family) refer to our family as a team, as a matter of fact, and I have friends that do the same with their families. Family raising is a team sport in my opinion, so put a name on it and call it your team! 

 

 

So, let's celebrate staying together! Marriage, on the best day, is hard. Period. There is no way to sugar-coat that, but staying married is so worth a good, great, honest, sweat-beading try. Marriage counseling works wonders, and can help get a marriage back on track. Before the proverbial flame flickers, though, try to keep your relationship on a good track. Claim your date nights. Build in some play time. Talk for at least ten minutes a day. Gaze into each others’ eyes for a whole minute. Kiss for a whole minute! Yes, your older children will shriek and shout, but on the inside it makes kids feel secure when mom and dad are affectionate with each other. Try something new to encourage your relationship. Just like the Mikey commercial from the eighties, “try it, you’ll like it!”

So, this mama is tired of the negative publicity toward marriage. I'm starting a marriage praising revolution. So join in! Share your happiness! Put some good marriage moments out there on Twitter, in the comments, on Instagram, or on Facebook, or on the social media of your choice. Encourage others, too, because some days it is just hard to feel like a couple. Here it is, though: you are a couple, and there are many fringe benefits to staying a couple. You have to work at it. Another great commercial allusion: Just Do It!

 

Keep calm, don't throw in the towel, stay married, and parent on:)

 

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