Hey fellow moms, our “holiday” is coming up this week. Usually when I talk to other moms about Mother's Day, there are two groups...those that love Mother's Day, and those that don't. Growing up, my mom never really liked Mother's Day, and she still doesn't. Back then I didn't really understand why she didn't like “her” holiday, but now, after having kids of my own, I do. It's not so much that I dislike having a day to honor moms, it's that as a mom, it's not really a day off. It feels just like any other day. I still need to do all the things that I do every single day. Although, receiving the kids’ handmade cards and extra hugs and kisses is a bonus that I don't necessarily get all the time. So there's that. But someone should make a rule that there is to be no fighting or whining on Mother's Day, and that all moms get an endless supply of chocolate and wine. That would be a true holiday. Just hold the chocolate and give me extra wine.
When I was trying to think of what I wanted to write about for this post, I couldn't come up with something style related and Mother's Day related that I was happy with. In my first post here, I talked about how I pulled myself out of my mommy style rut, so I didn't want to write about that again. Then I thought, maybe I should write about my kids ( I laughed at this, because isn't that a typical mom thing to think? Always about the kids). I mean, why not write about my kids on my “holiday”... they are what made this a holiday for me anyway. Without them, I'm not a mama. There are some things that I want to teach my kids, my daughter especially, not just about clothing, but about confidence. And, undoubtedly, there are some things that both of my kids have taught me. I will save my lessons for my kids for another post, and list some of the funnier things that they have “taught” me.
Style tips from my kids:
• Accessories are only worthy of an outfit if you wear ALL OF THEM. The more glitter and sparkle you have on, the better. Shine on, girl...blind them with your beauty.
• If you add a superhero cape to any outfit you immediately turn into a superhero with super strength. It's the power of the cape. Don't question it.
• While wearing a crown, people will of course assume you are a princess; therefore it's perfectly fine to insist they call you Princess Beautiful.
• If you are out shopping somewhere that you hate and find it to be dreadfully boring, be sure to hide in the clothing racks and be very quiet. Only come out when the person you are with starts panicking and threatening to call 911 because you are lost.
• When in doubt, go monochrome, head to toe all one color (preferably blue). Unless camo is an option, then go camo all the way.
• If a tutu is available, wear it, and wear it everyday, everywhere, always.
• When you need to get ready but can't decide what to wear, just put on all the clothes. All of them. Indecisiveness has nothing on you.
• Pattern mixing has no rules when you’re a kid... all patterns go together, in fact, it's a good idea to wear as many patterns as possible just to make it interesting.
I will say, that while my kids can be rather hilarious with their style choices, there is one thing that I hope I'm teaching them. I want them to have a positive body image, to love themselves, and have confidence in who they are. They want to walk in our shoes, so we need to be mindful of our own body image... keep it positive. My kids don't see a negative version of me. To them, I'm always beautiful. That’s the nature of kids. They see beauty even when us older folk don't, and, when it comes to body image, I don't want them learning negativity. I've had to be careful many times, to not use the word “fat” or “ugly” when referring to myself, or how I feel. My daughter wants to be just like me; I see this more and more everyday . She has even started crossing her legs when I take her picture, just like I do.
I often find her in my closet trying on my shoes. Sometimes I even hear her clunking around upstairs, wearing my shoes and trying to walk in them. I hope, for both of my kids, that while they want to fill our shoes...that they know they need to stand tall in their own shoes first. That's a good Mother's Day gift, somehow getting validation that what we want most for our kids, will come to be. That they will grow in confidence and be able to stand tall and walk on in grace, beauty and love.
What do you have planned for Mother's Day? We usually go strawberry picking, and of course it will be done stylishly. Head on over to www.raininstyle.com for more stylish mama talk.