- Category: My Stomping Grounds
- Published: Wednesday, October 07, 2015
- Written by Susan Wanderer
We mamas adore other adults pouring, speaking, encouraging, loving, engaging and spurring on our kids. Additional adults who speak truth over our babies are as sweet as nectar and as valuable as fine gold or an evening of binge-watching Netflix without disruption (now THAT is a rare gem).
The few pre-selected folk that we eagerly allow our children to be engaged with reach far beyond one moment.
These individuals say the same things we are saying, but they say it differently/cooler/more non-parent and without the nag of a mom or dad.
- Mrs. Cole, Kindergarten Teacher – She selflessly drives carpool for us each morning to our school. She invests in them. “Mom, Mrs. Cole says this…. Mrs. Cole says that…” Yes, I LOVE IT. She is exactly right!
- Taihlor, Small Group Leader at Church – “Mom, Taihlor says we should make the wise choice!” Yep! I Agree… lets do what Taihlor says!
- Mr. Brent, Friend – “Mom, Mr. Brent is a hard worker… it is good to really work hard and help people.” Yes! I Agree!
Parents… with all the outside influences that bombard our kiddos, let’s intentionally find adults who can provide great, positive, like-minded wisdom for them.
As moms and dads we can’t provide everything for our little cherubs during their developmental years. That’s why life is done best in community.
Preschoolers think moms and dads are the bees knees… by middle school all moms should be wearing a name tag with “I’m Mom, SERIOUSLY??!” (complete with dramatic eye-roll)
Make a list. Who are some like-minded, incredible adults who can invest in the physical, social and spiritual development of your child? It doesn’t have to be a long list. But during the elementary years of inquisitiveness, middle school years of drama and high school years of independence… other adults speaking wisdom over our kids can be so very helpful.
I have found in 19 years of working with families, moms and dads who create this circle of influence are able to weather a storm a bit better when hard seasons arrive. Community matters.
Parenting does have difficult seasons. It is a good thing to have a plan and reinforcements.
Friends, family, teachers, churches, coaches, etc… these people are your reinforcements. They can help carry the load of parenting by creating a circle of influence around your kids. And their words will be life-giving and they will provide a beautiful partnership for the success of your child.
So, who is on your list?