Wow…it seems that all I have been seeing in the news are military accidents, incidents and loss of lives.
For those who have anyone who is deployed right now, this can put you on edge. The accident in Hawaii hit home for me – I met my husband while he was deployed to Kaheohe Bay, Hawaii – and I have a friend with a son stationed there.
As a military mom and military spouse, I had to learn a few things about dealing when a loved person is deployed. This list is what got me through the rough times, and I hope some of them will help you:
1. Trust that they have been trained well and know what to do in every situation.
2. They need and should be focused on their task at hand – not worried about what is going on at home.
3. Pray for them and their unit every day.
4. Do not wake up and immediately turn on the news.
5. Create a routine to keep yourself (and the kids) busy.
6. Find a place where you can receive free child care if possible– back when my husband was deployed it was 2 hours a month (if I signed up early enough). When my daughter was deployed and we had our granddaughter, our backup and relief was my oldest daughter and son-in-law.
7. Keep a journal. This was a great release of emotions – good and bad. And, it allowed me to remember what was important.
For all of the families with military members deployed right now, know that the Blue Star Mothers of Fredericksburg are here for you. We have all experienced boot camp, deployments, trials, struggles, sadness, hurt because our heart have a piece missing and, of course, the empty seat at the dinner table on their favorite holiday.
Today’s world can give us a lot of things to worry about even if we don’t have family in the military. We are your support group, your shoulder to cry on (or just talk) and your resource center.
Just reach out to us…we’ll be there.