Yes, yes... I know time flies when you're having fun. It also flies when you have a crisis, by the way. Time, it seems, is always going by too quickly, in hindsight, especially. So, it's already almost September!? This means I have to get organized to homeschool the two remaining non-graduated kiddos in my household (and probably the graduated one as well, because we have yet to find a good fit for him). Which means that I'd better get my you-know-what (insert your favorite word for backside here) in gear. Like, soon.
So...a little back story: I wanted to title this post 'seven stitches and one unexpected demise'... But my close friends and family insisted that it wasn't a good idea to do that. The thing is, though, that this summer has NOT gone according to plan. We've had a lot of not-planned-for things happen. Life happens, and it is messy and beautiful, and sad, and amazing. I've learned that I enjoy routines, and schedules, though. It may be because I have autism in my family, or it may be the nurse in me, or anxiety... the list goes on... Whatever the reason, routine is my friend. So, once I'm out of it (routine), things tend to just go by, and by, and then it's almost September, for example. So, this why I want to write about the beauty of routine.
I love, love, love homeschooling my kids. I enjoy getting to spend the best part of their day with them. I'm actually very excited that no one at our house is in another (as in alternate, public, private) school setting this year! Four years of public high school was a little bit on the tough side for us. We are not morning people; we are definitely not 0630 AM people. My husband, God bless him, is a morning person, and faithfully gets up every morning very (very) early. He tolerates us non-morning people very well. The rest of us (not me, and not any of the kids) did not inherit a morning gene. We do follow a routine, though, and life is just much better all around when we stick to it.
Repeat after me: routines are beautiful!!
Our day (for example) looks a little like this:
8:00-9:00-- wake up, breakfast, coffee (yes, we all drink it. We love coffee!), get dressed, etc.
9:00-10:00-- morning chores, tidy up (I find I am able to be attentive to school stuff when I'm not worrying about waffle syrup sticking to plates. And floors. We have a Labrador. Floors need to be swept, or I imagine that little dogs are growing out of the fur piling up around the baseboards), devotions, Bible time
10:00-12:00-- history/literature/grammar/writing work
12:00-12:30(ish) lunch, stretch, walk outside, jump up and down...
12:30-1:15 (or so) math. We must accomplish math. It has to be done. Math. I don't like math. My oldest two do not like math.
1:15-2:something- the kids work on science homework (they are in a co-op for that- I also don't like lab science in my house. This year the girls are both doing chemistry- one in middle-school, one in high-school, legit, a scientist is teaching it, and I'm so glad I don't have to).
The afternoon is usually free for playing, reading, art, running errands, and get-togethers (the newly twelve year old informed me that I could no longer call them play-dates). We tend to eat dinner between five and six. One day a week we go to co-op only, and it is all day, so we don't "do school" on those days, and Wednesdays are music days, so they will look a little different, too. One evening a week is spent at the library, and one is spent at gymnastics. We also will be doing a speech and debate club this year, on Fridays, in the afternoon. Friday tends to be a light day no matter what curriculum we use, so I'm glad that club is on a Friday. Sundays are church days. Bam! We have a routine:)
Although I've never done this before, this year we all (meaning the homeschool folk in the house) have planners, so each day will have a checklist for what needs to be done. I'm looking forward to seeing how it works. I hope it does work, in that I hope that by writing a plan for the week we will be kept honest and realistic about getting the school work accomplished. We are far (far) from perfect (very far), and usually, around the holidays, we fall a bit out of routine with traveling, and family, and special events. And for some reason, February and March are difficult to get through. I suspect it is because of the cold, and being inside so much. Another thing I've learned about everyone in this family is that we are ALL seasonally affectively disorderly (SAD) in the cold, dark months. It's true! We get spring fever, too, but we tend to power through and try to be done with our (school) work around the first week of June. By the end of June I'm usually missing my routine, which is why this year I tried to implement a summer routine. Then summer happened, and seven stitches and an unexpected demise later, I'm scrambling to organize myself for September. It is okay, though. Like I said, life is beautiful, and messy, and sometimes we are in a season of just-getting-through-it!
Getting into a routine is awesome. Structure is especially good for toddlers and pre-schoolers and kids with any type of anxiety or autism issues. It's also just plain good to know what is expected from everyone (spouses included!) from day to day. We, as parents, know what to expect, and the kids know what to expect. Also, putting on the schedule or calendar anything out of the ordinary (field trips, doctor appointments, party days) gives the young ones time to process a different routine. It really does help avoid a meltdown (it doesn't eliminate them- meltdowns are like ninjas; they can come out of nowhere). Think about it: everything on earth has a routine! Seasons, animals, nature, even existence has a pattern to it. Routines are good. Routines are beautiful. Please feel free to share yours!
P.S.: More on the subject of loss to come... Loss is one of those subjects that is hard to talk about, and even harder to experience. It was an uncle, actually, who died unexpectedly. I'll explain the stitches, too, in my next post. Thanks!
(the pretty flower picture is by Lakis Fourouklas)