I have to admit that this receiving of gifts is not my main Love Language.
Maybe it is because I'm in the organizing business - and I see so much money wasted on the purchase of items that are either not needed and/or under-utilized.
Maybe it is becausem I believe that the house will only hold so much. The walls will not expand to make extra room.
Maybe it is because I can probably find a dozen other uses for the money that was just spent on a needless gift.
One thing is for sure. My husband doesn't get in "trouble" for not buying me expensive and lavish gifts. (And I think he is ok with that).
But for some, their Love Language is the Receiving of Gifts and if you are the spouse of a Gift Lover, you had better know what is expected of you. Here is the deal:
- Gifts don't have to be expensive (you don't have to give roses just on Valentine's Day - a dozen roses "just because" can touch a heart in many more ways
- Gifts don't have to take up "space" in your home. Your gift can be for your spouse or significant other to experience a mani-pedi at a local spa
- Gifts don't have to be purchased at a store. Sometimes the best gifts are made by your own hands
Here are some great ideas for clutter-free gifts:
- Movie tickets
- Pick flowers from the front yard or flower bed
- A nice (inexpensive) bottle of wine
- A "just because" card
- A gift card to her/his favorite coffee shop
Again, as an organizer, I am not a fan of buying gifts that will cause clutter and chaos (or that there is no room for in the house). This can be a real struggle if you have a child who's Love Language is receiving gifts. There can then be the whole issue of no wanting to let go of any of those "special gifts" throughout the years....but that is another topic and blog.
One of the biggest take-aways for me in this Love Language is that it should not be mistaken for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly. (taken directly from the 5 Love Languages).
Learning your child, spouse, or parent's Love Language can greatly improve your ability to communicate to each other on so many levels....and help you pull together as a family.
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