Making a difference…
Just recently, I came home after working a 9 hour day. Tired, hungry and simply wanting to collapse on the couch was exactly how I was feeling. Instead of giving in to the thoughts in my head telling me to crash, I began making dinner and tidying up a little while it was cooking. I also checked some emails and started a load of laundry. All this got done, of course, while my husband was on the computer and my daughter chilled out upstairs in her room, probably on her phone…neither of them noticing a bit of my effort.
Do you feel as though what you do each day isn’t noticed or appreciated? Making dinner, doing laundry (including folding it and putting it away –LOL!), changing the air filters, paying bills, grocery shopping, chauffeuring the kids, running errands, keeping the cabinets organized, and scrubbing the shower for the millionth time is enough to make you go nuts. Since much of what we do is undone so quickly, it tends to look like we never did it to begin with.
The time has come to let go of the need to feel like you must do everything perfectly, for everyone, every day. You are one person who is making a difference, even if it doesn’t seem like it. When you feel drained and empty, maybe even invisible, please know that you still matter. What you are doing is significant. Even if no one thanks you, the fact still remains - You are marvelous! It takes skill to juggle all that life throws at you, especially day in and day out. Sometimes there is no break which can be very tiring. Whether you believe it or not, and I sure hope you do, you matter! Each and every time you pick that pair of shoes up off the floor or wipe that counter, sticky from the PB&J sandwich you made for your kiddo, you are making a difference. Trust me!
That same evening, after praying with my daughter and telling her goodnight, she gave me a huge bear hug and smiled as she said, “I love you, mom!” That gesture, my friends, erased all the exhaustion from me and gave me just what I needed to realize how I am able to keep going each day! I encourage you to persevere in doing all that you can with what you have for those you love. All that you do is so important to those close to you. They do realize your worth and truly appreciate it, even if they don’t say it out loud each day.
Your ability to hold things together, even though you are exhausted, is truly admirable. That shows how you love your family deeply, and from the heart. What drives you and gives you the focus needed to keep plugging along day after day? From where do you draw your strength? I suggest taking time each day to reflect on how meaningful your role is within your family. Understand that your commitment to them is vital. Refuel yourself through prayer, meditation and quiet moments to replenish all you lovingly give away. It is being received and your efforts are not in vain. I’m cheering you on! You can do it!