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Becca Beasley is the owner and operator of Becca Bee Events, a wedding planning business thriving in Central Virginia. With twelve years of event experience in the tourism industry and a solid background in literature, Becca contributes her talents to travel blogs in the Mid-Atlantic region. Her FredParent blog relates the adventures she and her two young children, Maggie and Brendan, embark on in Fredericksburg with a focus on the area’s family-friendly locales. This September, Becca and her husband, Mark, are expecting their third child.

Childhood is Calling

T.S. Elliot wrote “April is the cruelest month” in The Wasteland, but I would argue that August is the cruelest. The heat this summer has been oppressive for us all, at times, but being pregnant and chasing two young children has really lengthened the summer for me.  August, especially, seemed to drag on.  Vacations and trips are all wrapped up and I’m stuck playing an agonizing waiting game as I wait for kindergarten and preschool to start and wait for the baby to arrive. It is an emotional time for me.

My first-born is going to kindergarten. I can and cannot believe the time is here. When Maggie was born, I gave up my career to be her stay-at-home mom. It was a very difficult decision for me because I both enjoyed and excelled in my event management career. I gave up my ambitions to be immersed in a daily routine that is, at best, difficult to control. So a big part of me breathes a sigh of relief, “We made it! She’s going to school!” However, something happened over the course of the last five and a half years: Love. I love my children. I love and embrace my role as mama. So now a big part of me laments, “She’s going to school?? She’ll never again be home as much as she has been in the last five years!” Mixed emotions, for sure. I hope and pray that I’ve poured enough into her—that I’ve given her enough of a solid foundation in these five short years—so that she will make smart decisions when it comes to her friends, her activities, and her conversations.

My son—my baby to-date—is starting preschool. I cannot believe that he will be four this year. It seems so logical that my daughter is nearly six… She is currently five, so of course six comes after five. But for some reason, Brendan’s four years have flown by at a rate which Maggie’s never did. He starts preschool this year—it’s his first real foray into the world without me. He is excited, and I am so excited for him. But I am sad! Where has the time gone?? And why has it gone so quickly? I am incredulous. 

My third child is due in less than two weeks. Waiting for a baby to arrive is rough, at least for me. There is only so much one can do to “prepare.” If anyone tells you they’re ready for the arrival of another child, they are lying to you and to themselves. But never mind the physical and mental challenges… can I just vent about the emotional comments I’m getting from others?? I’m going to start being flat rude to those who say, “Three is exponentially more difficult than two,” or “You only have two hands; you’ll be outnumbered now!” I want to ask those commentators, “What is your point? Can’t you see that this baby is coming no matter what? Why do you choose to be negative?” After I had my first child, I went to a breastfeeding support group. It seemed to be a big bitch-fest for new moms. It was the first and last meeting I went to because I contended that I wasn’t going to successfully breastfeed if I continued to surround myself with such negativity. I feel the same way about my success as a mama of three: if you must make a comment, make it a nice one. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut!

And so it is easy to see why August has been such a trying month for me. I feel out of control in many areas of my life, and rightfully so. Sadly, this means that I must give something up in order to prioritize others. This is my last blog post for Fred Parent. I have enjoyed sharing my summer activities with you! My children and I will continue to explore Fredericksburg. If you happen to see us out, please say hello! But please be positive and patient with us… ♡

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Pouches' Community Corner

Adoptive parents in Fredericksburg now have a new partner on their journey to a healthy family. In 2016, Children’s Home Society was awarded a $125,000 grant from the Virginia Department of Social Services to extend their Richmond area post-adoptive services to the Fredericksburg area.

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Now CHS is looking to find adoptive families in the area who need support before they hit a crisis point. “It doesn’t matter which agency they adopted from, or when that happened,” said Buckheit. “We want to offer a lifetime of support to adoptive families in the Fredericksburg area, especially those who haven’t been aware of our services in the past.”

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